THIS. And, yes, it was John
jawnbc who "installed" the idea of LJ in my head. I think it happened a few months before July and it was only after his visit to Ljubljana that I actually dragged my arse into something called writing a proper blog.
I have to say I still have more or less mixed emotions about this all blogging thing. I don't think if I found the right mixture of give and take. I don't have a very big Flist, actually I think there are less than 50 names on it and I think I could call myself a loyal blogger; meaning I am getting notifications for each and everyone of these blogs. I read them and I really used to do my best to leave some sort of reply on these journals. Used to refers to the fact I do lack some sort of feedback now and then. I have to say I am pretty satisfied with the way I lead my life, so I don't really need LJ as some sort of venting or anything, but realising some people might find your stuff interesting does feel good. We all know it. It's just a bit boring to feed some egos's out there in LJ community all the time without me being fed. It is boring.
Ok, comment-whore does step out now and then and it's the time of silly, almost naked, exposing, teasing, yes, silly posts. But, sadly, these are the posts with the biggest echo.
So, tell me, what is it? Me not being able to pick up the right Flist content? Me being stupid because I expect my "real life" rule of "everything you do comes back to you" might actually work in a predominantly gay LJ community? Or is it just me missing the target yet again. :)
I do spend a lot of time online, but I must say that keeping some real interaction through stuff like Skype, MSN, ISPQ and alike makes me feel a bit better than this, somewhat dim mirror of LJ. Don't know, maybe three weeks of vacation ahead of me might give me enough of time and space to step back a little and see where this LJpath will take me.
You take care. It's fun nevertheless. :)
Yes, it was 8 July 2007 when I posted I have to say I still have more or less mixed emotions about this all blogging thing. I don't think if I found the right mixture of give and take. I don't have a very big Flist, actually I think there are less than 50 names on it and I think I could call myself a loyal blogger; meaning I am getting notifications for each and everyone of these blogs. I read them and I really used to do my best to leave some sort of reply on these journals. Used to refers to the fact I do lack some sort of feedback now and then. I have to say I am pretty satisfied with the way I lead my life, so I don't really need LJ as some sort of venting or anything, but realising some people might find your stuff interesting does feel good. We all know it. It's just a bit boring to feed some egos's out there in LJ community all the time without me being fed. It is boring.
Ok, comment-whore does step out now and then and it's the time of silly, almost naked, exposing, teasing, yes, silly posts. But, sadly, these are the posts with the biggest echo.
So, tell me, what is it? Me not being able to pick up the right Flist content? Me being stupid because I expect my "real life" rule of "everything you do comes back to you" might actually work in a predominantly gay LJ community? Or is it just me missing the target yet again. :)
I do spend a lot of time online, but I must say that keeping some real interaction through stuff like Skype, MSN, ISPQ and alike makes me feel a bit better than this, somewhat dim mirror of LJ. Don't know, maybe three weeks of vacation ahead of me might give me enough of time and space to step back a little and see where this LJpath will take me.
You take care. It's fun nevertheless. :)
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Comments
You know that many of us here enjoy reading about your life in Slovenia (and are in awe of your excellent English). All of us have basically ordinary existences, so sometimes our posts may be a bit mundane - but that's OK.
Happy Anniversary!
Ok, so you say I should just stick to my balance. But I do find not paying attention to any sort of reaction pretty hard - must be a journalist in me. :)
But as things are I'll just keep on babbling about Slovenia and that hardly pronounceable Ljubljana. And just because I love it.
And that's all that matters, right?
I used to get mad when I knew people read my blog without comment, but then I realized one day that hey, maybe they just have nothing apt to contribute or that the entry was complete enough.
Here's my point: I don't care about comment counts. I've never really had them. I assume that my readership is like the New York Times and I'm touching so many and various lives that not everyone can take the time to respond.
I try to comment when I think that people need them, but I have a degree of social retardation and sometimes my sarcasm doesn't come across in the journals. I've lost friends from here that take me too seriously, or that didn't take me seriously enough.
I hope you continue to find interesting things to blog about. And thank you for your interest in my blog too :)
:)
And that you are very popular with your readers.
Said that, I know that some people are quite bad at commenting (and I am often one of them!)
But that doesn't mean that they don't read you.
Sometimes it's simply hard to find something new to say!
You take care, ok?
I like your journal, it's illuminating and entertaining. Keep doing it cos you do it well. ;-)
It's a shame that the comment whoring posts are the ones most commented on. Sure, they're fun but when you've got something relevant in your life to write about and then fewer people respond to it then it can be somewhat frustrating.
Yes, you found the right phrase. "Somewhat frustrating". I guess I need more of a year to develop some kind of "internet neglectfulness" resistance.
LOL
A bonus is meeting (in cyberland) some facinating people world wide. It also shows me I am not alone out there, others have the same feelings and lead the same boring or sometimes exciting lives.
I use2 be offended when someone would unfriend me, especially people I have met real time but then I think WTF. Your loss.
Anyway, I really enjoy your blog, although I may not comment all that much I do read it and find you and your blog very interesting
But on the brighter side... LJ has brought a few new interesting people in my life. They are called my Flist and I guess I'll just keep on treating the as I do it in my real World, not just WWWorld. :)
Also, is "Ljubljana" really a word? :-)
And yes, Ljubljana, is an actual word. It's the name of the city I live in. LOL And it says LJ on our licence plates, go figure.
It's actually spelled as "l-you-b-lyah-nah". :)
You're just looking for pictures of Igor, I know I know LOL
*hugs*
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In any case... I'm very glad you are still around here, popping by to say hello here and there, being silly, and teasing me merciliously. Happy 1 year mister xoxoxoxoxo
And I love teasing you.......... :)
HUGS
HUGS
I like to learn how you imposed your life, hmm... cause we're both man and gay and out, both journalists, both working for the same media, meeting the same people at work, walking in the same studios and rooms, both from abroad, living in Ljubljana, both enjoying a long term relationships with our beloved, both hedonists, obsessed with Mediterranean stuff, and all that smells of Italy, both somehow optimistic and willing to live and experience ... although we’re very different. I like to compare our lifestyle ... me being a gay activist and you being out and “non-activist”. I like to adopt some changes, to improve, to experiment, to search, to discover, to learn and also to teach. To look at my reflection and to reflect. I like the fact that LJ connected us ... I know you for almost 10 years... but we were fare apart till LJ and Bear happened. And of course, I like to read cause I like you. Love you.
Ok... I miss some reflections in your writing, some being really you ... some going in depth ... I miss you telling us deeper things, your thoughts, your concerns, your preoccupations... you show us only the bright side... but I'd like to see also the dark.
Love reading your blogs, and of course, can not resist to avoid commenting fleshy, beefy and horny posts.
Hope you'll continue... and I'll miss your post during holidays.
Out and "non-activist". I guess I lead a "comfortable" life and it might also be the egoist in me. I just don't feel any need to walk around and say "look at me, I am here". Whoever wants to see me, he or she can do it. And if they find the image they see ugly, they can easily look away. I don't give a fuck actually. I also take the right to look away pretty often. So, it's all good and on even levels.
And my darker side. I really don't have much of that and I am not pretending and when I have bad or at least a bit worse days, I do mention it on LJ as well. The fact there's not much "dark mood" about me is a very simple consequence of my basic rule in life: I only live once. There are no second chances on this one and when I reach the point to say 'Goodbye, World' I want to have as few un-ticked wish-boxes as possible. A day full of bad mood is a day lost. And I just don't want to lose too many.
:)
How shallow is that?
But that's definitely a part of it. The most inane posts imaginable get scores of comments, and the deep serious pondering ones about life, love, career get resounding silence.
I do think people want attention, otherwise your journal would be on your hard drive, not on the internet.
But I also think we want understanding and love and sympathy.
Anyway, I post when I think I have something entertaining to say to my Flist, I Flock the ones about work, I make the private ones private, and I leave the pop culture ones wide open. But it's mostly just a pastime for me so I let the popularity thing fall by the wayside.
No, it's all good. And you're right - I am more or less the same when it comes to commenting and replying. And yes, part of the game is attention and part of it is understanding. I guess I am just a bit too "interaction oriented" at times.
And BIG yes for "would be on your hard drive, not on the internet". Right on, Shawn.
HUGS
So...... any special orders for hot pics? LOL